Hello, lovely readers!
Take a deep breath. Seriously, stop reading for two seconds, inhale deeply, and exhale slowly.
Better?
I am writing this to you today from a place of, well, utter exhaustion. Lately, I’ve felt like my brain is a web browser with 45 tabs open—three of them are playing audio I can’t find, and the whole thing is about to crash. Between work, trying to maintain some semblance of a social life, keeping my plants alive, and attempting to exercise, I realized something: I hadn’t truly “done nothing” in months.
We live in a hustle-obsessed culture. We take pride in being busy. If we have a free hour, we fill it with a “productive” task. But when was the last time you sat on your couch, didn’t look at your phone, didn’t listen to a podcast, and just… sat?
If you can’t remember, this post is for you. Today, we are talking about the beautiful, underrated, and essential art of doing nothing.
The Myth of Perpetual Productivity
We often mistake productivity for worth. We think that if we aren’t checking off tasks on our to-do list, we are wasting time. But let me tell you a little secret I learned the hard way: Rest is not a reward.
Rest is a requirement. It is fuel for your body and your brain. When you refuse to rest, you aren’t being “strong” or “dedicated”—you are running on empty, which eventually leads to burnout, irritability, and mistakes.
I recently spoke with a friend who told me she felt guilty for watching a movie on a Tuesday night. “I should have been cleaning the kitchen,” she said.
What? Why? The kitchen can wait. Your mental health cannot. When we feel guilty for resting, we are letting the hustle culture win.
The Physical and Mental Toll of “Always On”
Have you ever had a weekend where you felt like you didn’t rest at all? That’s because you weren’t actually relaxing. You were “productive-resting”—running errands, organizing that closet, or researching your next holiday.
Your brain needs true downtime to process information and recharge. When you are constantly consuming content (social media, Netflix, news), your brain is still working.
The consequences of neglecting rest are real:
- The Brain Fog: You feel sluggish and can’t concentrate.
- Irritability: You snap at your partner, friends, or pets over tiny things.
- Lack of Creativity: You feel uninspired and stuck.
What Does “Doing Nothing” Actually Look Like?
“Doing nothing” doesn’t mean lying in bed all day (unless you really need to!). It means engaging in activities that require zero brainpower. It’s about being present in the moment without a goal.
Here are some ways I’ve been practicing the art of doing nothing:
1. The “No-Phone” Zone
For thirty minutes, I put my phone in a different room. No, I don’t look at it. No, I don’t check the time. I just sit and stare out the window, or watch my cat chase a shadow. It sounds almost boring, right? That’s the point. It gives your brain a chance to switch from “do” mode to “be” mode.
2. The Mindful Coffee
Instead of drinking my morning coffee while answering emails, I sit at the kitchen table and do nothing but sip. I feel the warmth of the mug, smell the coffee, and just exist. It’s a tiny, one-minute meditation that sets a calm tone for the day.
3. Gazing at Nature
I know, I sound like a hippie, but hear me out. Sitting in a park or in your backyard and just watching the leaves rustle, or looking at the clouds, is incredibly grounding. It reminds us that the world is huge and our “urgent” problems are, in the grand scheme of things, quite small.
4. Listening to Music (Without Doing Anything Else)
We often use music as background noise while cleaning or working. Try this: Sit down, put on an album, and only listen. No phone, no reading, no cleaning. Just listen.
How to Handle the Guilt
The biggest obstacle to doing nothing is guilt. You might feel like you are being lazy.
Let’s reframe that. You are not being lazy; you are being intentional. You are preserving your energy so that you can show up as your best self later.
If you struggle with this, try scheduling your “nothing” time. Treat it like a meeting with your boss. Put it in your calendar: “Friday 5 PM: Nothing.” When the time comes, you have to honor it.
The Magic That Happens When You Rest
When you give yourself permission to rest, amazing things happen. You’ll notice that your creativity comes back. You’ll have more patience. You’ll even find that you are more productive when you are working because your brain is well-rested and refreshed.
Think of it like a battery. You wouldn’t expect your phone to work forever without being plugged in, would you?
A Tiny Challenge for You
I want to challenge you this week. Don’t worry, it’s not a “do 1000 pushups” challenge. It’s a “do nothing” challenge.
For 15 minutes, three times this week, I want you to do absolutely nothing productive. No checking email, no cleaning, no planning, no scrolling. Just sit, breathe, and exist.
Let’s break the cycle of exhaustion together. Let’s start valuing our peace as much as we value our to-do lists.
You deserve to rest. You don’t have to earn it.
How do you like to relax when you’re overwhelmed? Leave a comment below and let me know—I’d love to hear your favorite ways to unplug!
Stay cozy,
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